The dating mood board
Two men I know well have been left by their wives. These are young couples, married for three and two years respectively and each have two kids. These guys both have great jobs and the women work marginally. One woman is finding her path as an artist and the other is studying psychology. Now my boys aren’t saints, they get mad and say the wrong things, or worse, nothing at all; and one of them drinks too much. But they are generally good faithful non-violent guys who stand by their women in the face of demanding in-laws, a man’s world and gravity’s attack on a woman’s waistline, boobs and self-esteem. So what is the problem? They have no idea.
I know exactly what the problem is: Each of these women is fundamentally unhappy. The first woman is trying to find herself as an artist. One minute she is a painter, next she is designing clothes, I recall a brief stint in PR and I swear if someone suggested that she could sing, I guarantee we would all be watching her first video on KissTV by Christmas. The girl works she is just, in Nairobi parlance ‘bila focus!’
The second chick is a perennial student with nary a degree in sight – law, marketing, business and now psychology and she has taken a class in IT. That kind of curiosity could be harnessed into a journalism career but that would be too much like hard work. She would actually have to finish something.
So now these women, these mothers, have left their husbands and committed to raising their kids in single parent households. For what, you may ask? Now that question I do not have the answer to. There isn’t another man in sight in either of these cases so just like their husbands, I am perplexed. It would seem to me that if you are to split your home in two, you would have a serious end-game in mind. At least something better than nothing, to replace two parents for your kids and a life partner for yourself?