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Two men I know well have been left by their wives. These are young couples, married for three and two years respectively and each have two kids. These guys both have great jobs and the women work marginally. One woman is finding her path as an artist and the other is studying psychology. Now my boys aren’t saints, they get mad and say the wrong things, or worse, nothing at all; and one of them drinks too much. But they are generally good faithful non-violent guys who stand by their women in the face of demanding in-laws, a man’s world and gravity’s attack on a woman’s waistline, boobs and self-esteem. So what is the problem? They have no idea.

I know exactly what the problem is: Each of these women is fundamentally unhappy. The first woman is trying to find herself as an artist. One minute she is a painter, next she is designing clothes, I recall a brief stint in PR and I swear if someone suggested that she could sing, I guarantee we would all be watching her first video on KissTV by Christmas. The girl works she is just, in Nairobi parlance ‘bila focus!’

The second chick is a perennial student with nary a degree in sight – law, marketing, business and now psychology and she has taken a class in IT. That kind of curiosity could be harnessed into a journalism career but that would be too much like hard work. She would actually have to finish something.

So now these women, these mothers, have left their husbands and committed to raising their kids in single parent households. For what, you may ask? Now that question I do not have the answer to. There isn’t another man in sight in either of these cases so just like their husbands, I am perplexed. It would seem to me that if you are to split your home in two, you would have a serious end-game in mind. At least something better than nothing, to replace two parents for your kids and a life partner for yourself?

A few weeks ago, Pastor S of Mavuno Church asked me to go and talk about the end of dating during a Saturday night service. While these two marriages are not a qualitative sample, they are a result of what passes for dating in Nairobi. If we call dating an interviewing process through which a man and woman establish compatibility and assess their capacity to build a life together, then these two couples failed.

Is it that we do not know how to date so we do not note signs of incompatibility? Or we do not know who we are and have not been honest with ourselves about the lives we want to live so that we cannot pick the right partners? Are we optimistic about the effect that a marriage certificate will have on our mate and his or her behaviour? Do we have unrealistic expectations of what our spouse or marriage will do in our lives? Is it that we do not get the gravity of divorce and what it does to children?

Looking at these women and their choices through the lenses provided by their angry and biased husbands, it seems that they did not know what they wanted before they ever got married. It seems like they thought marriage would fill a gap in their lives, perhaps even give them a life. All this would be fine; you never know what is available for you until you declare your desire for it. Perhaps there are men out there who would have been looking to raise a woman instead of partner with one.

So what to do? How about we take a concept that works well elsewhere and use it in the dating world? The mood board. If you walk into an ad agency and declare the desire to create a ‘brand’, you will eventually create a mood board – complete with pictures of what informs your brand, what it stands for etc. Couples ultimately want to create a brand, a family unit and the creation of a mood board when a couple become serious can highlight what it is that they have in common and what each of them thinks is a successful life.

Sure we grow and change throughout life, but this mood board would simply be the beginning of an ongoing conversation. The unit that a couple creates is a reflection of their values and a mood board will let you know if your potential partner cares about the same things you do. If my pals had created mood boards then, maybe they would never have married women who were ‘finding themselves’.

Dating site that pairs attractive women with generous jetsetters slammed.

Critics say a new dating site that promises to link high-rolling globetrotters with pretty women who want to travel the world for free is no more than a front for prostitution.

But the sites founder vehemently denies the charge.

Miss Travel pairs attractive women with generous jetsetters who hate to go on trips alone and are willing to foot the bill for a companion, the New York Daily News reported.

Gawker calls it the #1 prosti-travel website, and while reactions on Twitter were mixed, user @Kgigr asked, I really want to know how miss travel isn’t selling yourself for an all-paid trip?

But founder Brandon Wade said, “escorts are not allowed to use the website. There’s no money exchanged. And there’s no sex discussed on the website at all. So for people to sort of link it or compare it with prostitution is really quite a stretch.”

A disclaimer on Miss Travels website reinforces Wade’s claim that escorts aren’t allowed.

Gawkers sister site Jezebel questioned how safe it is for women to travel with someone they met online.

“There’s just such a giant window for dishonestly and coercion here. You’re not just on a date with someone – you’re on a boat, you’re in a hotel room, you’re in f—ing Thailand,” wrote Jezebel’s Lindy West.

West wonders about the girl who winds up 5,000 miles away from home … and realizes she doesn’t want to put out.

On Miss Travels “How it Works” page, members are reminded that “online dating is risky” and urged to “practice a common sense approach when meeting a stranger online.”

Wade runs two other dating websites, seekingarrangement.com and whatsyourprice.com.

He describes seekingarrangement.com as a website to match sugar babies with sugar daddies, while whatsyourprice.com lets men bid on dates for women. So far, the highest bid has been 3,000 dollars, he said.

But, at least according to the fine print, none of the websites are about sex.

“We’re just a dating site. We match people and then they’re off on their own,” he explained.

Users seem comfortable enough with that sentiment – Miss Travel reached 20,000 users on Thursday.

While virtually all of the travel-seekers are women and the travelers men, Wade said that both sexes are welcome to sign up for either category. He also notes that 6 percent of the sites users are gay.

As far as how many people have actually travelled with someone they met through Miss Travel, Wade said it’s too soon to tell.

On Miss Travels homepage, a banner displays the sites motto: Who needs money, beautiful people travel free.

Below, a video explains in detail how it works.

The hourglass-shaped, brunette cartoon narrator boasts that the site has thousands of free travelers who hate to travel alone.

“These generous travelers are doctors, lawyers, bankers, athletes, executives, entrepreneurs and millionaires who are looking to travel with an attractive person like you,” she said.

Best of all, they have the money and are willing to spend it on you.

But Wade said that it’s not all about money. “This is a wonderful way to ignite romance,” he asserted.

Wade explained that his empire of dating sites was built out of my own frustrations and passions.

“I grew up being a complete nerd. I’m shy and I didn’t really have a girlfriend until I was 21 and I had my first kiss. My mom told me to focus on school and study and when you’re older, dating will be easier for you,” he revealed.

Wade is now married to someone he met online.

“People think it’s very superficial. But I’m actually invited to a wedding in the Caribbean this summer because of a marriage that came about on seeking arrangement.com,” he said. (ANI)

Dating Games: High School Athletes’ Relationships with Opposite Sex Sometimes Extend into Rival School Districts.

“So be true to your school, just like you would to your girl or guy. Be true to your school now, and let your colors fly. Be true to your school.”

— The Beach Boys, ‘Be True To Your School’

TWIN FALLS – Bo Petterson and Sydney Lee traded jabs at each other about their respective schools Thursday afternoon. Lee, who plays golf for Twin Falls High School, highlighted the Bruins’ academic reputation and athletic prowess.

“Twin is always better, so we don’t even worry about them,” she said.

Petterson, a junior golfer for Kimberly, defended his Bulldogs’ program.

“Well, you guys are in a different division so it doesn’t even matter,” he said. “Our school is more laid back, but we still learn the same stuff. Plus, we have a great agriculture and shop program.”

Petterson, sporting brown dread locks that fall in his face and Lee, with her Chacos sandals and bright disposition, make a light hearted couple that doesn’t care about their Twin Falls-Kimberly hook up — despite the smack talk back and forth.

“It really isn’t that big a deal,” Lee said. “A lot of the Twin girls seem to like the Kimberly boys.”

For more on this story, check back with…

Dating failure Josh Hutcherson.

Josh Hutcherson was a dating failure at school.

Despite becoming one of the biggest heartthrobs in the world after starring in ‘The Hunger Games’, Josh admits he wasn’t a huge hit with the girls when he was at high school because he is naturally shy.

He revealed: ‘It’s hard to believe, but I’m very shy when it comes to talking to girls. I don’t know why I get so nervous because it’s so easy, it’s just talking and I talk all the time. But it’s terrifying.’

Josh is single at the moment and although he isn’t actively searching for a girlfriend he knows what sort of woman he wants to date.

The 19-year-old actor said: ‘It’s important for a girl to be herself. I don’t want someone who is trying to make me think she’s a certain way when she’s something different. Someone who is comfortable in their own shoes and who is down for having a fun time. I used to have a very specific type – dark hair, dark eyes, dark skin. Now I’m more into the beauty of a person.’

Kim Kardashian & Kanye West Dating, Caught Getting Naughty In Maybach.

Kanye West has been caught with his pants down with Kim Kardashian — literally! The new celebrity couple were photographed by paparazzi (Warning: NSFW photos) exiting Yeezy’s Maybach outside his apartment in SoHo on the way back from dinner in New York, and he’s literally pulling up his pants, showing some skin where his underwear should be.

TMZ claimed to have a source who said of the event, “Kanye and Kim were excited for the family gathering and the opportunity to show them just how great they are together” and that “the meeting went great, and the family thinks they make the perfect couple.”

And regarding the “KW” earrings that Kim was wearing, which happen to match the name of her date, Kanye West? “Oh, and the KW?” Khloé said, “I think she confirmed that by wearing them.”

However, there have been rumors their relationship is not genuine.

“If they are in the same area, they are going to hook up,” one source told the esteemable gossip rag, Hollywood Life, about Kim Kardashian and Kanye West. “But they are not going to take the relationship to the next level and become exclusive with each other.

“They are equally using each other to expand their own personal interests/brands rather than fall in love,” the source concluded.

Sounds about right to us. It’s been a few months since the outrage and publicity surrounding Kim Kardashian’s divorce from Kris Humphries, and she is indeed due for another romantic entanglement!

And obviously these photos indicate they are availing themselves of each other, sexually. And these shots are not the first photographic evidence of sexual involvement between the two — rumor has it that two photos featured at MediaTakeOut last month were of Kanye West and Kim Kardashian.

The first shows a mid-action shot of a man, who MediaTakeOut claimed is Kanye West, engaging in sodomitical relations with a large-bottomed woman, who many are speculating is none other than Kim K. herself. The second picture is a tighter but no less graphic shot, again depicting posterior insertion. Kim is of course known for her large bottom and loose sexual mores.

One person who you think would be angry about this is Kris Humphries, Kim’s soon-to-be-ex-husband, whose marriage with the jewel of the Kardashian clan ended after just 72 days last year. But the rumor is that his lawyers are interested in Kim and Kanye’s relationship and whether it dates back to when the two were married — making it relevant in the high-stakes divorce proceedings to come.

“The crux of Kris [Humphries]‘ case for annulment is that Kim married him under fraudulent pretenses and did it for her reality show,” an insider told Radar Online. “Team Humphries wants to know if producers of the Kardashian reality shows were in contact with Kanye West prior to the new couple dating or going public with their relationship and what those conversations consisted of. When did Kim develop romantic feelings for Kanye, and why, after publicly stating she wouldn’t feature any future romantic relationships on her reality shows, did she do a complete 360?”

“It’s sad that they can’t even be amicable or friendly because Kris did truly love her and has only wanted the best for her,” the source told Radar. “He is no longer in love with her, though, he has moved on and is definitely enjoying being single. He is dating again, but no one serious because the divorce is a long way from being made legal, and he isn’t ready to get serious with anyone at this point. Surprisingly, Kris hopes that Kanye isn’t using Kim for publicity because, again, he doesn’t want to see her hurt.”

How Dating Rules Differ for Men and Women.

Did that first date go well? If so, women can expect a friend request on Facebook sooner than men can. That’s one of many tidbits from a new survey about how men and women approach dating.

Match.com released some figures on the topic Tuesday, (April 24) but left at least as many questions as they answered. So we asked for more results from the 5,000-person survey (funded by Match.com and conducted by research firm MarketTools, The Kinsey Institute and several academics).

On Facebook, for example, 20 percent of men and 16 percent of women said they would send a friend request to their potential partner after two to three dates. But there are also extremes. Sixteen percent of women would wait until the relationship has become exclusive. Feeling pre-game anxiety, 10 percent of men would send a request before the first date.

(Waiting is not a bad idea. Facebook can reveal way too much information that’s easily misconstrued. A gal in a photo on the arms of several good-looking men might not get a chance to clarify, “But they’re my brothers!”)

Are you dating a social media blabbermouth?
Your Twitter followers get a kick out of all your tweets about your partner’s quirks. She, on the other hand, is not amused.

In a world where social media users share just about every moment in their lives, from what they’ve eaten for breakfast to milestone events like weddings and childbirth, it’s tough to determine what’s fair game and what’s off-limits. For couples, the question of how much to share online has become a common source of friction, according to The New York Times.

Imagine your irritation if your partner confided to her best friend about your latest quarrel. Now, multiply that frustration accordingly if she broadcasts it to all 400 of her Facebook friends. As the Times reports, even sharing seemingly innocent moments, like a house repair or a botched dinner, can lead to embarrassment and bruised egos.
To deter such blabbering, some couples are setting boundaries on what’s shareable as early as the first date, the Times says, describing such negotiations “a kind of social media pre-nup.”
Others demand the right to approve comments and photographs before they are posted.
Remember when comedian Russell Brand tweeted a bleary-eyed photo of his then-wife Katy Perry (emphasis on “then”)? Well, doctoral student Rebecca Gray can probably relate to Ms. Perry. Ms. Gray told the Times that her boyfriend once took a photo of her face slathered in a beauty mask, with eyes closed and mouth open wide, and posted it on Facebook.
When she discovered it, she said: “My jaw dropped. I tried to remove it, but I could only untag.”
Her boyfriend now seeks her consent before posting photos of her.

Breaking all the rules in the big book of online dating.

You can be quite sure that when a man calls you a handful, they’re absolutely NOT planning to marry you.
“Your profile looks great – but it’s best to be honest. You’re a bit old for me,” emailed Doc after I sent him a message on a dating website.
At 37, Doc’s only five years younger than me – a gap that barely registers a soft purr on the cougar scale.
“Actually I was just thinking the same thing, Doc. You got a younger brother?” I teased.
I’ve joined two online dating websites Match and Plenty of Fish and had a good response – but mostly from men at least 10 years older than me.
Now I know I’m not in the first flush of youth, but hell, I am not ready to hang up my dancing shoes just yet.
So I decided to approach the least offensive looking types between 35 and 45 who also live locally.
I have to spend hours yelling at my daughter Jesse to “go to sleep” before I can go out in the evening, so dating George Clooney in LA is out of the question.
Sorry, George, I know you’ll be heartbroken, plus you’re a bit old for me, mate.
Doc politely replied to my message and then found himself being talked into a date.
“You seem a game gal. I’m always up for a beer and a laugh,” Doc typed. “What happens now?”
“Well, you ask me out, I tell you to grow up. You beg, I refuse. You keep trying, and I finally relent… Tuesday in the Crown & Anchor? That’s if the landlord will serve you.”
“A week gives me time to grow a beard so I look older. What time shall I book the mobility bus for you?”
“8pm – that gives me enough time to hoist myself into my surgical ­stockings.”
Right in the middle of all this virtual flirting, Jesse came downstairs wearing just her tiara, clicky-clack heels and magic wand.
She turned around grinning and showed me her pink diamante handbag, which she had tucked into her bottom.
“Look, Mummy,” she said, “Magic”. It’s a novel way to carry a handbag, I agreed.
Days went by but I didn’t hear back from Doc, so I thought I’d better check that he hadn’t actually died – the only acceptable excuse in my book if someone can’t make a date.
“Dear Doc,” I emailed. “I expect you’ve had a lot of homework to do this week, but are we still on for Tuesday? Only I need to cancel my Meals On Wheels if I’m going out with a nice, young man.”
“Sorry, old girl, was on call. I’m still on for Tuesday, if you are,” he typed, “you do sound like a bit of a handful though.”
You can be quite sure that when a man calls you a handful, they’re absolutely NOT planning to marry you.
“All the best people are, Doc,” I soothed. This wasn’t a good start, considering we hadn’t even met.
Doc has a nice smile and wears cute specs, although he giggles like a girl. Our date was fun and I got a bit hammered, which breaks all the rules in the big book of online dating.
The other rule is never give them your address, so of course I invited him back for a drink.
We’ve arranged to meet again, probably against his better judgment as he says he wants to get married, have kids and settle down: his words reminding me of what I lost when David died.
‘How did your date go?,” texted Cityboy the next day.
Although I called Cityboy back after he gave me his number at a party, we haven’t managed to meet up as he lives in London, and I’m in the sticks, but he seems to have taken a keen interest in my love life.
“He’s a surgeon apparently,” I replied. “If I play my cards right, he could do my tummy tuck for a tenner and a bag of Haribo.”
“Rubbish,” he texted back, “You just need more exercise – lots more sex.”
Hmmm… I know distance makes the heart grow fonder, but I’d need Jesse’s magic wand to make that happen.

Three niche dating sites for targeted romance.

Ah, springtime! When a young single person’s fancy turns to quiet desperation. The darling buds of April have shaken off their veils of snow, and you, dear reader, have done likewise with your veils of fleece and SAD-induced despair.

Months of picnics, outdoor shows and wine-sodden nights in summertime finery (or, at the very least, jean shorts and well-worn wife beaters — however it is you roll) stretch out before you. Now all you need is someone to share them with, right?

Might we suggest spending those last few weeks of mixed-bag weather doing what any red-blooded human does when they’re looking for answers: Stay inside and troll the Web.

“I’ve tried looking online for love!” you may cry — quite literally. “OkCupid was too arty (and unemployed) for my tastes, Match.com was replete with pleats and Wall Streets! And Craigslist, well… I need a shower. In bleach.”

We get it. Sometimes you don’t really want to wade through suite after suite of suitors to find the perfect co-picnicker — I mean, we live in a society where we want everything from our coffee to our movies to be instant.

So why not narrow down the search a bit via a superspecific online dating site?

Seriously, guys, there’s someone out there for everyone, and apparently some enterprising developers (just the folks you should trust for love advice) have gone and cataloged them all. Read on for three extremely calculating sites for satiating that aforementioned quiet desperation.

(NB: Shared interests don’t always equate to true love — we know this. Mostly we just find these sites amusing.)

If you like to sweat on a date (in a nonsexy way) …

From the running track to the weight room to the yoga studio you roam, counting the multiplying packs of your abs, marinating in your own sweat and hoping against hope that that dude — the one who always parks his yoga mat unnecessarily close to yours, making for optimal ass-viewing — will ask you to go for a smoothie after the last “Ommmm.”

Usually you’re so bold — you with your hot pink spandex and ability to bench-press your twin bed. But in his presence, all you can do to contain your ardor is assume a child’s pose and weep salty, sweat-mingled tears.

Well, muscle-bound dear, dry your eyes (and perhaps take a shower, too). There’s a dating site out there specifically designed for you: Single Fit People.

This free (for the time being) Boston-based matchmaking machine allows folks who like to work out to find other folks who like to work out to … you know, work out/make out with. The site even organizes events where singles can mingle and run around and stuff.

Yup, on this site, a red face is more likely to connote the blush of love, rather than an abrupt cessation of physical exertion.

If ‘our song’ is likely to be super obscure …

In recent years, you have taken to going to shows alone, parking yourself in the corner with a brimming glass of whiskey and a brimming heart — and no one to share them with. Yes, in the past, suitors have attempted to share your love — nay, indefatigable PASSION — for music.

But many, obviously intimidated by your vast breadth of knowledge, have left mix tapes half composed (Dashboard Confessional? Seriously?), attempted to talk to you while your third-favorite Seapunk band took the stage, and — perhaps most unsettlingly — just put their iPods on shuffle while y’all were making out.

Luckily for you, there’s a free resource on the market that will help you avoid anyone out there who “likes everything but rap and country”: Tastebuds.fm.

The site allows you to easily port over your musical interests from Facebook or Last.fm so as to weed out anyone not familiar with that most important holiday in the world, Record Store Day.

The site even has a feature whereby you can search for events in your area and people to attend them with, so perhaps you can share that whiskey (and heart) with someone special, or at least sort of special, next time around.

You’re a social media ‘ninja’ …

You have SO MANY FRIENDS. Seriously, like 10,000 Twitter followers, a million stalkers on Foursquare, and Facebook — well, let’s just say you had to create a Fan Page for yourself after you hit the friend limit. If a potential date wants to get on your radar, they’ll have to send you a tweet.

You’re just so superbusy at-replying, posting interesting articles to your friends’ walls and checking into the bodega around the corner each night when you pick up your frozen pizza for one (gotta maintain that Mayorship!).

Still, sometimes — amidst the pings, love-red notifications and badges — you feel a deep, dark force sucking at your heart. An emptiness even Instagram for Android failed to fill.

Somewhere out there, however, there’s another soul aching and tweeting and pinging right along with you, and a little site called Tawkify aims to act as your guide through the morass of online social interactions.

For about $15 a pop, Tawkify matches up potential soulmates based on their Klout scores (a service that measures your social influence online) as well as other factors, and sets up phone dates so they can get to know each other the only way they know how — from the comfort of their own cave-like homes.

‘We’re just friends!’ Mollie King denies reports she’s dating Prince Harry.

She has been the focus of rumours for weeks that she is dating Prince Harry.
But now The Saturdays singer Mollie King has come forward to deny the romance reports, insisting the pair are just friends.
Mollie made the admission during a Q&A session on her Twitter page yesterday.
She wrote: ‘Guys I’m getting a lot of tweets about Prince Harry but … i’m not dating him & we’re not in a relationship. We’re just friends.’
Mollie and Harry, 27, first met at a polo match in 2010 and in recent weeks the pair have been partying together at Public nightclub and karaoke bar Bunga Bunga in London.

The 24-year-old singer – who split from male model David Gandy in February – and Harry were allegedly set up by his cousin Zara Phillips, who is a friend of the pop star’s Saturdays bandmate Una Healy.
Mollie had previously remained very cryptic about the reports that she was in a relationship with the royal.
She replied nervously: ‘I would say so yeah.
He pressed: ‘Do you like prince of pops?’ to which she replied: ‘I love Justin Bieber, he’s amazing yeah.
Meanwhile, it has been confirmed that Mollie and her Saturdays bandmates have signed a development deal with E! to star in a reality TV show.
The five-piece band – which consists of Una, Mollie, Frankie Sandford, Vanessa White and Rochelle Wiseman – have agreed terms with the network to have their personal and professional lives documented on camera.

Gwyneth Paltrow admits suffering with postnatal depression.

GWYNETH Paltrow said she was mortified when her husband Chris Martin suggested she was suffering from postnatal depression.

The actress began experiencing the symptoms following the birth of her son Moses in 2006. At the time, Paltrow couldn’t understand why she was struggling because she had felt so happy when her daughter Apple arrived in 2004.

The star’s musician spouse realised she wasn’t coping and broached the subject with her.
“I couldn’t connect with my son the way that I had with my daughter and I couldn’t understand why,” she said on US TV show The Conversation with Amanda de Cadenet. “I couldn’t connect to anyone. I felt like a zombie. I felt very detached.

“I just didn’t know what was wrong with me. I couldn’t figure it out. It never occurred to me. My husband actually said, ‘Something’s wrong. I think you have postnatal depression’. I was mortified. ‘No I don’t!’ And then I started researching what it was and the symptoms and I was like, ‘Oh, yes I do”’.

Paltrow believes that “you never totally get rid” of postnatal depression.

However, the 39-year-old actress found it easier to cope after she opened up about her condition. She hopes to help other sufferers by discussing it in public.

“That’s why I talk about it, because even the awareness of it started to diminish it. Because I didn’t feel like I’m dying or I’m crazy – period,” she added. “It’s like, ‘Oh, this is a thing. This is a real thing and these are the symptoms and I have them all’.

“We think that it makes us bad mothers or we didn’t do it right, but it’s like, we’re all in this together. I never understand why mothers judge other mothers It’s like, ‘Can’t we all just be on each other’s side?”’

Dan Ewing’s dating advice for co-star Lincoln Younes.

IT looks like Lincoln Younes is getting more than dating advice from his “Home And Away” co-star Dan Ewing.

Younes, who plays the brother of Ewing’s character on the soap, was spied out in Sydney this week beefing up his bod with some soft-sand running in Palm Beach.

Could he be taking a leaf out of Ewing’s hardcore workout manual? Already Younes has said he regularly takes dating advice from his mega-buff co-star, telling TV Week: “Dan is quite happy to give tips on ladies.

“I wouldn’t say good tips, I’d say interesting – but that’s worked out all right.”

So good, in fact, that he already landed a girlfriend, budding actress Amy Ruffle.

“She has everything – when I look at a girl, I want her to be able to have a laugh and not take herself too seriously, and I think the biggest thing is if they’re nice and genuine at the heart of it all,” he said.

“And she is just the most beautiful and genuine person I have ever met, that’s probably what attracted me to her.”

Meanwhile it seems that while Younes is dedicated to keeping his body beautiful, he is less fond of being photographed while doing so and took to Twitter after his jog this week to take a swipe at Confidential’s snapper.

“Had the most beautiful day at Palm Beach … which was then spoilt by a very unsubtle paparazzi,” he griped.

How To Talk to Women: Dating Expert Reveals What Men Should Never Do In Conversation With Women.

Men can shave a few months off the learning curve of how to talk to women by paying attention to common mistakes that are made. Because most of the time it is more important to know what mistakes will send a guy into the danger zone than it is to memorize witty pick up lines, says Dating Expert Carlos Xuma says in his new report.

Friday Dating Tip from The Queer Guy.

It’s Friday night, the plans have been made, the clothes have been picked out and it is time to head out on your date; your first date.  Since the majority of singles are meeting people online there are times where our expectations may be a bit over inflated.

Let’s say the average person spends about a week exchanging emails, text and even a few phone calls before deciding to plan a date.  By this point you have in your mind an idea of what your date may look like (based on pictures and physical description).  You know their hair color, height, maybe a rounded down estimate of weight and even a few of their likes and dislikes.  But, is that enough to paint an entire picture; your mind thinks so.

With the limited information about this person, we start to put together a mental image, minus any flaws.  We see only the good qualities, as they want us to, and our imagination fills in the rest.  The problem with this ideal person, they don’t exist.

Before you construct this perfect person in your mind remember, they’re  probably doing the same of you; and we both know you are not going to be 100% the person they are imagining either.  Keep an open mind and have the willingness to put aside petty issues.  Your date probably will not be the person you envisioned; he may have a bit of a beer guy or she may not have the large boobs you were hoping for; get over it.

Stop thinking about the things that are missing and enjoy the person for who they are.  You never know, the imperfect person before you could be the one you have been searching for all along, flaws and all.

And remember guys and gals…When it comes to dating fear,You can always ask  The Queer!

Are Gay People More Open to Interracial Dating?

There are several statistics coming out this week about the state of gay love in America, and the news is largely encouraging.

Pew Research Center has compared current public attitudes toward same-sex marriage to what folks believed in the two previous presidential election years, and the arc is bending toward justice. For the first time in an election year, more people support same-sex marriage (47 percent) than oppose (43 percent).

In 2004, only 31 percent of respondents said they supported same-sex marriage; the number rose to 39 percent in 2008, and is now at 47 percent. Conversely, 60 percent of people opposed same-sex marriage in 2004, compared to 51 percent in 2008 and 43 percent in 2012.
The Pew Center also catalogs how opposition to same-sex marriage has decreased in every age, ethnic and gender demographic since 2004, and has even gone down among evangelical Christians and Catholics.
In another recent survey, the Public Religion Research Institute found that 60 percent of folks between the ages of 18-24 support same-sex marriage, compared to 37 percent who oppose. Support for same-sex marriage among the Millennial generation includes more conservative young people, as there was a much closer margin whether homosexuality was morally acceptable: only 48 percent of young people said that they viewed sex between two people of the same sex as morally acceptable, while 44 percent did not.

In other data, UCLA’s Williams Institute continues its ongoing analysis of U.S. Census statistics and recently determined that interracial dating is slightly more common in same-sex couples than in the heterosexual population. More than twenty percent of same-sex couples are interracial or interethnic, compared to 18 percent of unmarried straight couples, and 9.5 percent of married straight couples.
Between 15-17 percent of same-sex couples in Georgia are interracial, according to the Williams Institute.

“This is our first 2010 glimpse of the racial and ethnic compositions of U.S. households headed by couples, including same-sex couples,” said Gary Gates, the gay Census guru at the Williams Institute. “The new Census data help provide a fuller picture of the diversity within the LGBT community.”

2Love Today Free Online Site Launches Dating Diva USA run by Vice President of Matchmaking Ashley Kaylor.

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Cheryl Cole to try internet dating?

London: Singer Cheryl Cole has apparently decided to give online dating a go.

“Cheryl`s pals are urging her to go for it. She wasn`t sure at first, but now thinks, `What have I got to lose?` after their success,” a source told thesun.co.uk.

“She can get to know someone rather than have them form an opinion of her because of her fame and who she is,” the source added.

To begin with, that does not require proof: treason and simulation of a bluff dating marriage. A deception always causes a reaction. Why did people build castles on such a shaky foundation? Let’s start with women. Imitation of orgasm ladies invented somewhere in the same century as frigidity – men. It was then opened to women manic habit of proving that she can get an orgasm dating marriage. Since then, all the girls are just hypersensitive, every touch of a man they issue on the air, such passionate sounds that calm could compete with the heroines of porn films. Still, it would seem, well – a man is satisfied and the flesh and the reaction of women, but it is fraught with consequences. In the men’s vision turns picture and sensations that brings on the “no” to the entire sighs partner. The problem is that when women simulating orgasm, vaginal muscles they are not falling dating marriage. And, if such reductions simulate some talented girls have already learned, the uterine contractions not good. Therefore, knowing the man must feel when his lady is bluffing, and it is unlikely to inspire it. It can occur between the partners of this proximity, if one of them pretends to be. And the man is nothing else to do but subconsciously seek a man with who will converge puzzle. A subconscious impulse – it is already half done. The body finds itself on other potential targets to test for interfacing. Here you, women, and a prerequisite to male polygamy. But you have to add silicone bras, blue lenses and corrective cosmetics, and the bluff will simply enchanting. With all the attendant.

Russian brides become extremely popular for foreign fiance. Why? The reasons are many. But the most interesting is that foreign men not always understand why they need it is a Russian brides. Just all of their friends say that the Russian brides – the best. And why Russian or Ukrainian girls – the best, they are beginning to understand this in the process of ecoming acquainted with potential brides. Well, those men who understand what they need, Russian girls are looking to create a family for several reasons. First, a Russian woman – a good wife, caring for family and children. Secondly, the beautiful mistress. Thirdly, a good lover in bed. That opinion, which was formed by foreign men of our girls. But it is no secret that there are bad and girls who are a disgrace to the honor and dignity of our nation. This so-called Scammers. Scammers are people who post on the Internet for dating site photos of Russian girls and present them as Russian brides looking for husbands abroad. Then she recognized the alien in love and desire to be with him. Of course, the man fall for string. Every man wants to believe that he loved. Then the foreign man invites the woman he loves to visit his country. And she begins to talk about their plight, the inability to pay the visa and the road. He regrets that he could not come because of lack of funds. Man offers to pay for all that is necessary only to quickly come to a favorite. Now they need to get money. And as soon as the money fall into the hands scammers, beloved girl disappears… Many foreign men eventually became afraid of these women and with great caution choose with whom to communicate on the sites, and who do not need. On many dating sites, registered a huge number of not only young eighteen-year girls, but mature women who are looking for a husband or a friend abroad. And believe me – are not afraid to make a risky step and drastically change his life. And as in many countries abroad, you can find a huge number of unmarried men, who begin to think about marriage after 40 and even 50 years. But they are considered quite normal.

Beautiful Russian girl Ksenia Sukhinova won a landslide victory in the final of the competition “Miss World”, held in Johannesburg (South Africa).Contest winners announcement ceremony held in the most fashionable area of the main African cities Johannesburg – Sandton. The five finalists included Miss India Parvathi Omanakuttan, Miss Trinidad and Tobago Gabrielle Walcott, Miss Angola Bridget
dos Santos and Miss South Africa Tansu Koitzi. Light-brown hair student Petroleum became the main decoration of the total of all the colors of the rainbow show, which was held under the music itself
well-known South African pop group Mango Groove. Final in Johannesburg, brought together a record number of viewers from all over world – more than a billion people. 21-year-old beautiful Russian girl from Siberia in a stunning purple dress from the designer by Irina Vinnytsia with crystals from the “Swarovski” provided a place in the semi-finals already in the first mini-contest – Miss World – Top Model. She was among the winners and results of the show “Miss World – beautiful beach. Tall and thin like a string native Nizhnevartovsk told that “a child was caught up in sports – was engaged Rhythmic gymnastics, swimming, and then biathlon. Maybe it’s sporty character and conditioning workouts and long helped her find a way to Olympus beauty. Xenia was one of the few among the 112 contenders for the highest title in the world of beauty, which kept spirits and dazzling smile, after nearly a month dizzying schedule of photo shoots, travel, meetings and presentations. As she admitted, the program was so saturated that the dream has remained for about three hours, not more. Incidentally, the prize money to competition “Miss World-2008″ did not exceed the “Miss Russia 2007″ – a hundred thousand dollars. Tyumen beauty now listed in the first part of one of the leading modeling agencies – Point. Now Xenia said that beauty inherited from her parents: the figure – from the Pope, and no diets. Cannot give up even the ravioli in the late hour. Telling the press about the contest, Miss World 2008 dispelled the old notion of “backstage” relations involved. According beautiful Russian girl from Siberia, despite stiff competition, no rival was inserted pins to each other. On the contrary, argues Xenia, girl supported her, often said nice things, pay a compliment. “All the participants were worthy rivals — admitted Sukhinova. – 112 beautiful girls with exquisite manners, a surprising ability to behave properly hold. The winner of the beauty contest “Miss World-2008″ dedicated her victory over Russia. “I am very glad that brought to Russia this crown. I am proud that Russia inherited the crown, and dedicate his victory throughout the country, each of its citizens … and his grandmother, “- said Miss World 2008 beautiful Russian girl Ksenia Sukhinova. On the question of who first congratulated Xenia with a victory, Miss World 2008 said: “One mother called and Direction contest “Miss Russia”, for which many thanks to them.»

Arividerchi, baby (or another “divorce” a Russian dating brides site). You receive a letter. Opened. Message from the beautiful 22-year-old girl. “Hello, darling. I want to become intimate? I like men. If you want to see my photos, click on the link “. And given the link with a comment – just for you, dear – code for the call. I went on the link. This How nice (hihi), photo album Russian dating brides and explanations. “This is – I. And this, dear, if you suddenly want to – my girlfriend. BBC One, the other – Lesbian. You’re not against the three of us? “. Online divorce, or “scam by a woman”.
Online divorce, or “scam by a woman”. From what I saw recently – I was amazed at all! Although I will say that abroad it has long been the norm in women earning money without having to make bodily contact with a man. And this is because I had so dreamed of some wiseacre or clever, to daily and hourly to plant thousands of peasants. Thus, the scheme is very simple and effective. Young pretty Russian dating brides are not devoid of artistry, exhibited at the site of their photos, and comes to all men without exception, to the page and immediately goes. Middle-aged women (age group of women 35-to 40-k). Dating. Part 3. Middle-aged women (age group of women 35-to 40-k). Dating. Part 3. Of all the categories that I described, the age category of brides 35-to 40-to – the easy and predictable desires. Go tell that when I opened the profile of these women, I was not fun. Thousands and thousands of tired of the hard life, lonely, without their husbands, and under an hour, without work. Determining preference in this category of women of middle age, I have come to some conclusions. 0.5% – women, mostly 35-40, looking for sex for money. Woman looking for man? Woman looking for sponsors? Woman looking for sex?. Dating. Women 29-34. P.2 . Russian dating brides for man? Woman looking for sponsors? Woman looking for sex? Dating. Women 29-34. P.2 . As in the first part, I present statistics. The lowest percentage – women who are looking for sex for money – 2%. Nothing new, except that a more sophisticated proposal “love”, for example, sex threesome, BDSM, “Mrs.” or “slave”, any additions to the “love” in a “golden rain”, dildo and other intricacies. The only thing that is very striking – a decent “rejuvenation” of age. Ie in the questionnaire is written deliberately undervalued for 4-6 years age. Although the photo does not fool.

Marriage agency offer you a romantic tour to Russian women in any country in the world for exploring the serious, stable, interested in marriage, men from
different countries. Obviously, there is no better way to learn than personal contact. Only direct contact with someone, you really get to know him, know him, get
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Beautiful Russian brides,are famous all over the world!many people say that they are the most beautiful!!!The views of different peoples to human beauty differ.
For example, some leaders of the Polynesian peoples had to be very complete, and specifically for the fed. In addition, they were different from the fair-skinned
compatriots. Caring mother of the Tuareg tribe living in the Sahara, forcibly fattened their daughters – in the fullness of this country is associated with
fertility. If a girl is tilted forward on his stomach will be less than 12 folds of fat, nobody will marry.And in Papua New Guinea, girls begin to curl up and
delay the chest, as soon as they appear: the bride with protruding breasts will not enjoy success with the suitors. Standards of beauty evolved for centuries and
originated in the distant stone age, when the first fashionable accidentally pulled his ear lobe, or imitating an animal-totem, knocked out her lower teeth (to
become like a bull), and then became a model for many generations.Strange, from the standpoint of a European, exterior – pride of women in the remote corners of
the globe. Inhabitant of the island of Borneo in Malaysia with a young age are beginning to delay the earlobes, tying him to a special bronze weights.Gradually
increase the weight GUIREC to three kilograms, and in the heyday of women’s attractiveness earlobes reach the desired length – up to the shoulders. Graceful tattoo
on his hands (from the fingertips to the elbows), made in the form of lace, is an important complement to create the image. But perhaps the most original differ
Ethiopian girls from the tribes Surma and Muzi, adorn their lips clay discs. The lower lip is pierced, the hole formed in the implanted disc, the size of which
over the years becomes more and more.The value of the disk indicates how many cattle the family expects to get a girl for her as ransom. So, Beautiful Russian
brides maybe are not so exotic, but they are appreciated all over the world!!! Beautiful Russian brides the best brides!!!

Women Russian see themselves as unique, unlike anyone: “Women Russian – a unique creature”, “Russian woman has a unique and rich experience of
development”.Uniqueness is a breeding ground in order to perceive themselves as different from all the individual with qualities such as naturalness, independence
and inner dignity, individuality, the wholeness of nature, harmony: “It is man of integrity does not make half-hearted”;”Our women’s power over everything. And
each is worthy of a queen “women Russia says, they dress for fun, they like to invent something interesting “, etc. Among other characteristics, we note heroism ,
expressed in self-sacrifice, and on the contrary, the all-powerful;the scope of conduct , the leading features of which are the sensitivity, tolerance, compromise,
responsibility, popularity, both among men and in the modeling business, emotionality , which is manifested in the pursuit of extremes, carelessness, lack of
predictability. Russian women try to be beautiful – dress sexy enough, like the body-fitting clothes, transparent, and any that emphasizes and shows:) dignity of
their figures: the chest, slender legs, thighs …Loss of sexuality for a Russian woman – a loss of femininity, which means – good self-esteem! Women Russian, are
woman for the family. This is his wife … and the child for them – happiness, which they can present yourself and beloved husband. The purpose of the family – to
live happily and die in one day with her husband, surrounded by children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren. Family – the value itself. They are, for the sake
of the family, the problem is easier to carry the material plane, which may arise from her husband. Priorities for Russian girls are: first wife, then mother, and
only then are the values of professionalism and career!so if you would like to have good wife,you need to choose women Russian and dating site www.YanikaDate.com    will help
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Good Russian Brides are quite popular abroad, especially – in America. Recently, the author of the material, an American, arrives Russian bride. In anticipation
of her arrival, he decided to share some of the doubts and concerns that arise in this very popular nowadays situation. First it is necessary to those who in
America is looking for a good Russian Brides. Admit it – a very strange subject. He was that its not enough? Why is he eager to buy a good Russian Brides?American
woman, a slave of feminism and equality, too demanding, is well aware of their rights, especially in states such as California, knows how to shake them and in case
of divorce lets his former if not the world, the very emaciated. Turns follows the same (and they are all highly calibrated, for reading the same women’s magazines
look the same female transmission, and in general love to be unique standard) – that against the wind.So they go in search of Russian Americans, Filipino, Chinese,
Vietnamese and other non-American wives.

Evropeek Americans do not like – too cultured, extravagant, capricious and unpredictable, and the right to know how to shake worse than American women. Islamic
and African wives, too, not in fashion – and what to do with them?Filipina – homebody and a housewife, faithful to the grave, Chinese women and Vietnamese –
skilled cooks and meekly friendly, Russian – handsome, good in bed, and education. And they do not understand BA©lmez in American life, they are ready to take off
in a ghostly green crunch headlong.

Russian Bride is a beautiful dream for west men, they start looking for Russian brides when they met some friend from there who is happy in marriage with Russian woman, lonely man see how happy they are and their care about each other, so that one who is still alone start dreaming about his own happy loving family with and start looking nice woman on dating sites. Russian brides is famous from fairy tales, she has wonderful and completed image, she is like ideal for west men, and she is really might be ideal for them, because women from west are so emancipated and selfish, they put career on first place, Russian women put family on the first place. Russian Bride is devoted wife, she is ready to please husband, take care of him and love him forever. Russian bride is very popular nowadays, fashion for russian girls started with fashion stream on dating sites and it’s increase! Everybody deserves happiness and Russian bride would make you happy, it may be dating site promo slogan. Beautiful photos, perfect profiles, nice characteristics, everything you may look for! Girls in Russia are amazing, everybody knows it, but not everyone is lucky to have Russian bride, girls dream of princes from abroad, with every year more women dream to leave Russia and live on the west with nice successful caring man, and they leave Russia and start new life! Do not miss your chance to find happiness!